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5 Intention-setting Ideas to Honor a Rich and Diverse Culture!

November is Native American Heritage Month!

In 1990, the President of the United States, George H. W. Bush, declared the month of November as National American Indian Heritage Month, thereafter commonly referred to as Native American Heritage Month to honor the traditions, languages, and stories and ensure the rich histories and contributions thrive with each new generation.  It recognizes the cultures of Native American, Alaska Native, Native Hawaiian and Island communities.

Below I have provided intention-setting ideas to consider celebrating Native American Heritage Month:

  1. Land.  One simple way to honor Native American Heritage Month is to learn more about the Nation that inhabited the land where you currently live.  Visit Native Land Digital to enter a zip code.  I currently reside on the land where the Tongva (“earth”) Nation settled.  The Tongva Nation wasn’t officially recognized by the state of California until 1994.
  2. Read. If you are an avid reader, perhaps consider reading a story about a Native American or one written by a Native American.  Some suggestions include:
    • Lakota Woman (Mary Brave Bird (Crow Dog)’s autobiographical history of the American Indian Movement. A civil rights must-read.)
    • The Heartbeat of Wounded Knee: Native America From 1890 to the Present (David Treuer. Chosen By Barack Obama as one of his favorite books of 2019.)
    • Firekeeper’s Daughter (Angeline Boulley. New York Times bestseller.)
  3. Visit.  If you prefer to learn through seeing more, perhaps a visit to a Native American museum or historical site might fit into your plans this month.
    • Hopewell Culture National Historical Park (Ohio)
    • Canyons of the Ancients National Monument (Colorado)
    • Ocmulgee National Monument (Georgia)
    • Gila Cliff Dwellings National Monument (New Mexico)
    • For a full list in the state of California, click here.
  4. Cook.  If your moving meditation is cooking, consider trying a Native American recipe.  The first step is to pick a geographical location and choose ingredients that naturally grow there.  Some starting points might include:
    • Cedar plank Salmon
    • Indian corn (or maize, from the Taíno name for the plant)
    • Three Sisters Succotash. “Three Sisters” refers to the main crops seen in many Native American nations throughout North America: corn, beans and squash.
    • Wojapi – Wojapi celebrates the wide variety of berries by bringing them together in a thick pudding.  The pudding is enjoyed by many tribes of the Great Plains including the Lakota, Cheyenne and Blackfoot tribes.
  5. Listen.  If you are a music connoisseur, perhaps listening to Native American music is more up your alley.  You can listen here!
  6. BONUS:  Watch on HULU:  Reservation Dogs!

As always, if you try any of these intention-setting ideas for holistic health, I would love to hear about the impact they might have had for you.  Please send me an email at linda@sanctuary4compassion.com to share!

5 Intention-setting Ideas to Support Others Navigating This Storm

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month!

Two of my dear friends are currently navigating this more intimate, personal storm of breast cancer as I send this newsletter this month.  I know I am not alone.  With the prevalence of this disease, most likely everyone knows someone that has or is attempting to deal with this constant battle for life.

So to support these strong beyond measure warriors, below I have provided some intention-setting ideas for your consideration.  It is my hope you will consider exploring one or more of these ideas to go beyond awareness into taking action to support those living with this disease and trying to find a cure.

  1. Research.  You might consider educating yourself on the current developments in research (National Cancer Institute and BreastCancer.org) or donating to organizations that focus on metastatic breast cancer such as StandUp2Cancer and Breast Cancer Research Foundation.  .
  2. Speak Up.  Consider spreading the word about free mammograms, especially during the month of October.  Also, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) runs the National Breast and Cervical Cancer Early Detection Program that offers free or low-costs mammograms.
  3. Listen.  When cancer becomes a part of your life, it takes front and center on the stage.  However, that doesn’t mean it is the only show in town.  People need other people to simply be there to listen.  Some days they might want to talk about the impact of the disease or the treatments, yet more often they may want to talk about all of the other aspects of their lives, like their family, pets, their favorite TV show, their favorite vacation spot or restaurant, or they may ask you to talk about yourself and what is going on with you for the distraction.  Perhaps consider keeping this in mind when you connect with someone in the current throes of the battle.
  4. Donate.  Consider donating blankets, hats or scarves to a local hospital with a cancer wing or chemotherapy center.  If you are a passionate knitter or crochet artist, perhaps you make some hats or scarves from yarn remnants from other projects and donate them.  Simply contact the staff at these facilities to ask if they might accept such items and where to drop them off.
  5. Write.  Perhaps you write a card or letter to those going through one of the most frightening times of their lives and drop it off along with a scarf or hat, letting them know that they are thought of during this difficult time.  This simply act to show you care can be quite meaningful.

As always, if you try any of these intention-setting ideas for holistic health, I would love to hear about the impact they might have had for you.  Please send me an email at linda@sanctuary4compassion.com to share!

5 Intention-setting Ideas to Help Save Lives

September is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month and September 10th is World Suicide Prevention Day.
(Reprint from September 2021)Suicide is not an easy topic to talk about and yet that is exactly what is needed in order to reduce the growing rate of this tragedy.  Conversations can make a difference when someone is thinking about suicide.

Did you know that suicide is now the 10th leading cause of death in the United States, that, according to the CDC, suicide rates have increased by more than 30% in half of the states since 1999, and that the youngest person to kill themselves was only 6 years old?

Many of us will notice changes in people around us and get the feeling that “something is not right”. You may not want to say anything for fear you won’t know what to say if they confirm your concerns. While these conversations can be very difficult and confronting, just one conversation can save someone’s life by preventing suicide.

You may not be sure what to do to help, whether you should take talk of suicide seriously, or if your intervention might make the situation worse. Taking action is always the best choice. Here’s what you need to know to start saving lives today:

  1. Know – and look – for the warning signs.  There are several warning signs of suicidal thoughts that you may hear or see, such as:  1)  Seemingly harmless comments such as “I wish I was never born”, “I wish I wasn’t here” and/or “I wish I was dead”; 2) Withdrawing from friends and family and/or wanting to be left alone; 3) Having dramatic mood swings; 4) Impulsive, aggressive and/or reckless behavior; 5) Obsessed with death, dying or violence; and 6) Increasing use of drugs or alcohol.  Additional warning signs that the person’s thoughts may be moving toward putting a plan into action include:  1) Giving away their possessions or getting their affairs in order when there is no other explanation for doing this; 2) Saying goodbye to friends and family as if they are not going to see them again; 3) Their mood shifts from a sense of despair to calm; and 4) Taking action to secure the tools needed to complete suicide, such as buying a gun or stockpiling prescription medications.  Take any and all signs of suicide seriously.  If someone tells you they are thinking of harming themselves or behaves in a way that suggests they may be thinking of suicide, don’t dismiss or ignore the situation as many people who have killed themselves had expressed the intention at some point.
  2. Know the risk factors.  According to NAMI, the following are risk factors for suicide:  1) Previous suicide in the family; 2) Personal history of trauma or abuse; 3) Prolonged stress; 4) Agitation and reduced sleep; 5) A recent loss or tragedy; 6) Isolation; 7) Substance use and intoxication; 8) A serious or chronic mental illness; 9) Access to firearms; 10) Gender (men are 4 times more likely to die from their attempt) and 11) Age (under 24 and over 65 are at a higher risk).
  3. Ask questions!  If you sense something is not right and you have noticed some of the warning signs, connect with the person by asking them some questions.  Be sensitive and direct and ask some of the following:  1) How are you managing with what is going on in your life?; 2) Do you ever feel like just giving up?; 3) Are you thinking about hurting yourself?; 4) Have you ever thought about suicide, or tried to harm yourself, before?.  If they tell you that they have or are currently having suicidal thoughts, continue to ask the following questions: 1) Have you thought about how and when you would do it? and 2) Do you currently have access to the weapons or things that can be used as weapons to harm yourself?  Please know that asking someone if they are experiencing suicidal thoughts or feelings won’t push that person into doing something self-destructive. In fact, connecting with someone by starting the conversation and creating space for them to talk about their feelings may reduce the risk of acting on suicidal feelings.
  4. Know what to do.  If you become concerned that your friend or loved one may attempt suicide:  1) Stay calm (don’t fidget or pace) and don’t leave the person alone; 2) Ask what you can do to help, including “Can I help you call your therapist or psychiatrist?”; 3) If they ask for something, give it to them as long as the request is safe and reasonable; 4)  Don’t argue, threaten, or raise your voice, especially if they are experiencing hallucinations or delusions, instead be gentle and compassionate; 5) Don’t debate whether suicide is right or wrong; 6) Seek support by telling another family member or friend what is going on, by getting help from a trained professional, and/or encouraging them to call a suicide hotline number (i.e., in the U.S., National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255)).  Even if your friend or loved one may not be in crisis, it is important to still offer and provide support.  Let them know you are open to talking about what is on their mind.  When listening, demonstrate you are actively engaged in the conversation by providing positive reinforcement, reflecting their feelings and summarizing their thoughts.  Actively listening can help your loved one feel heard and validated.  Reassure your friend or loved one that you care and are concerned for their well-being and that they can lean on you for support.  If your friend or loved one has attempted suicide, call 911 or your local emergency number immediately or take them to nearest emergency room if you believe you can do so safely.  Try to determine if they have taken drugs or alcohol, whether they are under the influence or may have taken an overdose.  As soon as possible, tell a family member or a friend what is going on for additional support as you don’t need to try to handle the situation alone.
  5. Do more.  Start a dialogue now.  Consider watching “13 Reasons Why” and ask others if they have seen it, what they thought about it, and when (i.e., at what age) they might consider it appropriate to have a proactive conversation with their own children on the subject.  Consider helping out at a crisis center or volunteer with an organization that makes house calls to isolated individuals, such as single, house-bound seniors, such a Meals on Wheels.  Share images and graphics on social media to promote awareness and reduce stigma.  Remember that your engagement might just might help prevent suicide by letting others know that there are people that care and that there are other options available!

As always, if you try any of these intention-setting ideas for holistic health, I would love to hear about the impact they might have had for you.  Please send me an email at linda@sanctuary4compassion.com to share!

October Sound Bath

Immersing yourself in a positive environment that includes restorative yoga, Reiki, the sounds of 14 chakra-attuned crystal singing bowls and a guided yoga Nidra meditation will promote the body’s natural relaxation response and healing ability.  Crystal singing bowls resonate akin to universal love, spirit and source. The sounds are enchanting, harmonic tones that transform dissonance into resonance in the mind, body, heart and soul.

How might compassion factor into suicide prevention?

I think most, if not all, adolescents experience some level of dissatisfaction with their bodies, especially now with the advent of social media. I remember when I went through puberty (yes, before social media), I was constantly comparing myself to my friends and the images I saw in magazines and on TV. I was born shortly before Twiggy became the “Face of 1966” in the fashion modeling world. My mother was obsessed with the latest fashion trends, so this unrealistic ideal was something that took a stong and lasting hold of our entire household. I didn’t measure up then and I don’t measure up now. It’s not hard to imagine how never being able to measure up to some impossible ideal within our families can lead us into the dark recesses of our minds, inviting that self-judgmental part to begin to lead us through life.

As our self-judgmental part grows, it tries to convince us that it motivates us to try and do/be better, that without it’s help we would become unmotivated and lazy. However, this is not true. In fact, research has shown that self-judgment puts us at risk for suicidal thoughts, especially during adolescence. Body dissatisfaction has also been shown to be a risk factor for suicidal ideation and this dissatisfaction peaks during adolescence. So you can quickly see how dissatisfaction with our bodies in adolescence, when our bodies are in such a state of growth and change, invites self-judgment, leading to body shame and, without some support to balance the negative spiral of judgment and shame, can contribute to the risk of suicide.

So where might compassion play a part? Well, research is beginning to demonstrate how self-compassion can be a protective factor against suicidal thoughts. Unfortunately, teaching – or even modeling – self-compassion is not widespread in our cultures. Instead we have been taught messages such as “Suck it up, buttercup.” Such messaging has told us that to offer ourselves loving kindness or compassion is self indulgent. Again, another falsehood. Self-compassion is actually the motivating force for growth and change. So, if everyone committed to practicing more self-compassion towards themselves – thus modeling it to others – we would be contributing to the reduction in suicide risk, especially in adolescents.

If you would like to read more about this research showing how self-compassion can mitigate suicide risk associated with body dissatisfaction in adolescence , click the link below.

5 Intention-setting Ideas (per day!) to Express Kindness

Be Kind to Humankind Week!

I’m grateful for this annual worldwide celebration, that occurs the last week of August (starting 8/25), yet I also have to admit I wish it wasn’t necessary.  My hope is that we are kind to each other every day!

Each day of this week has a focus, an area where you can practice kindness:

  • 8/25:  Thoughtful Thursday
  • 8/26:  Forgive Your Foe Friday
  • 8/27:  Speak Kind Words Saturday
  • 8/28:  Sacrifice Our Wants for Other’s Needs Sunday
  • 8/29:  Motorist Consideration Monday
  • 8/30:  Touch a Heart Tuesday
  • 8/31:  Willing to Lend a Hand Wednesday

Below are intention-setting ideas for you to consider to demonstrate your kindness to humankind this week (and beyond):

  1. Thoughtful Thursday. Below is a list of suggestions for consideration:
    • Try considering the feelings of others.
    • Offer appreciation to a co-worker or class mate in a written note.
    • Reach out to someone to let them know you are thinking of them.
    • Donate used sheets, towels and blankets to your local vet or animal shelter.
    • Be on time.
  2. Forgive Your Foe Friday.  Consider one of the following to begin to reduce the anger within:
    • Practice self compassion to reduce any anger towards yourself.
    • Take a day off from watching the news.
    • Listen to a loving kindness meditation.
    • Catch yourself when you think something hateful and try saying to yourself “That’s not true.”
    • Try to see the other person’s perspective.
  3. Speak Kind Words Saturday.  Conscious practice is the beginning of forming a new habit.  Perhaps try one of these:
    • Compliment a feature of your neighbor’s home.
    • Tell a friend what you love about their children.
    • Pay attention to your tone of voice, specifically how it changes when words are offered from the heart, and speak from an open heart.
    • Practice saying thank you to others when you experience their act of thoughtfulness.
    • Give an unexpected compliment to a stranger.
  4. Sacrifice Our Wants for Others’ Needs Sunday.  Giving of ourselves in service of others is a reward in and of itself.  Consider trying one of the following:
    • If you know your friend is sick, bring them a home cooked meal (or their favorite meal from their favorite restaurant).
    • Do extra chores to give a family member some extra time to themselves.
    • Offer to watch your neighbor’s child for free.
    • Take an elderly family member out for a day trip.
    • Participate in a local fund-raising event.
  5. Motorist Consideration Monday.  Driving is stressful.  Perhaps try one of the following to bring more kindness into the experience and see how it might reduce your level of stress:
    • Slow down to let someone merge in front of you.
    • Make eye contact with pedestrians at cross walks and traffic lights and smile or wave.
    • Move over to give bicyclists more room on the side of the road.
    • Leave your mobile device out of reach to eliminate the impulse to just check in while sitting at a red light.
    • Avoid driving faster than the speed limit.
  6. Touch a Heart Tuesday.  Deeply touching the heart of another through words and deeds profoundly expands the capacity to give and receive kindness.  Consider trying one of these options:
    • Say “I love you.” to those you love, especially your children.
    • Adopt a animal from your local shelter.
    • Practice being a good listener.
    • Send a friend an uplifting article that made you think of them and let them know why.
    • Volunteer at a nursing home and offer to play games with the residents.
  7. Willing to Lend a Hand Wednesday.  Keep in mind the Butterfly Effect when perhaps trying one of these small random acts of kindness:
    • Pick up trash in your neighborhood and put it in the garbage.
    • If you know someone that needs a ride somewhere, offer to take them to where they are going.
    • Volunteer at your local library to read a book to children.
    • If someone looks lost, stop and ask if you might offer them some assistance.
    • Stay late for a co-worker who needs to get home.

As always, if you try any of these intention-setting ideas for holistic health, I would love to hear about the impact they might have had for you.  Please send me an email at linda@sanctuary4compassion.com to share!

Sacred September Sound Bath

Immersing yourself in a positive environment that includes restorative yoga, Reiki, the sounds of 14 chakra-attuned crystal singing bowls and a guided yoga Nidra meditation will promote the body’s natural relaxation response and healing ability.  Crystal singing bowls resonate akin to universal love, spirit and source. The sounds are enchanting, harmonic tones that transform dissonance into resonance in the mind, body, heart and soul

 

5 Intention-setting Ideas to Support Powerful Emotions

When the United States was born in 1776 during the signing of the Declaration of Independence, Pluto, the planet of rebirth and transformation, was located at 27 degrees Capricorn.  More recently, Pluto entered Capricorn, a sign that signifies money, dominance, power, authority and ambition in late 2008 and leaves Capricorn on January 21, 2024.  Pluto reached 27 degrees Capricorn on 02/22/2022 and will do so again on July 11th and December 28th this year.  As such, many astrologers consider this the U.S.’s personal Pluto return.  A planetary return is when a planet revisits the same exact place in the sky, which for Pluto occurs around every 248 years!

Pluto represents destruction and construction and works to tear down things that are no longer working.  Anything that is occurring during this time will be asking us to pay attention to what needs to be transformed within the US and beyond, creating upheavals in the current dynamics, such as the sexist, racism, classist, homophobic, ableism, anti-Semitism, transphobic systems put in place all those years ago.  Pluto in Capricorn has removed the blinders and allowed these ugly and painful truths to be seen and felt more acutely.  It has brought down people and corporations that have refused to grow and transform.  It destroys what is no longer working and constructs new evolutionary ways, shifting ideology into a space of growth.

So what does this all have to do with our powerful emotions?  Well, with Pluto in Capricorn, the energy is working to support the growth of the world and specifically the United States.  And when there is resistance to this growth and evolution, societal upheavals are expected.  And when we as humans experience such societal upheavals, powerful emotions tend to arise.  And if we don’t tend to these powerful emotions, conflict may escalate not only externally but perhaps more importantly, internally.

Below are intention-setting ideas for you to consider to ride the collective and personal emotional waves as Pluto continues to push us on our journey of transformation and evolution:

  1. Befriend Powerful Emotions. Don’t view your emotions as the enemy as so many of us have been taught.  Powerful emotions have information to share if we can simply welcome them, instead of reject them.  For example, consider anger.  Anger’s message is often that our needs are not being met, either because they are being ignored, invalidated, dismissed, or trampled on.  Anger might be saying “I need to be seen, heard, valued, supported and/or accepted!”  Perhaps think about the last time you felt anger (dare I say rage?) and get curious about what it is trying to say to you.  What need or core value was not being honored in that moment?  Gaining clarity around your needs, and how anger attempts to protect those needs, begins to soothe this powerful emotion as if feels heard and valued (by you!).
  2. Release Control!.  We have also been taught that we can control our emotions.  Unfortunately, this lesson has created a belief that leads many of us to disassociate, to cut off all connection between between our logical and emotional intelligence.  However, under such conditions, powerful emotions tend to show up when least expected or wanted, because they will only be ignored for awhile.  Perhaps think about how you might regulate or balance your emotions, not control them.  For example, when we experience loss, sadness is a normal, natural human response and requires expression.  If we repress it, thinking we can control it, it will shift into the space of depression.
  3. Accept ALL Emotions.  Powerful emotions are not bad, they are human. Another step in regulating or balancing emotions is to accept all of them and honor that they are what make us human.  Take guilt as an example.  Most of us don’t like feeling guilt as it is uncomfortable.  However, what if we accepted guilt as a guide, the primary emotion that keeps us connected to our authentic self.  Perhaps consider thinking of guilt as a guide, not viewing it as a punishment making us suffer for a mistake we made.  As humans, we make mistakes.  That is a necessary part of learning.  So, when we begin to veer too far away from our authentic self and behave in a way that elicits guilt, thank guilt for being the guard rails to our journey, instead of beating yourself up as you learn along the way.
  4. FACE Fear.  If we don’t embrace our deepest fear, it will always be in the driver seat of our lives.  This is not a conscious decision, but a reality.  Embracing our deepest fear doesn’t mean we are turning the steering wheel over to it.  Instead, it invites in compassion and encourages fear to loosen its grip on the wheel.  To FACE your biggest fear allows space for us to engage in a dialog with it and honor how it too protects us.  Consider trying the following:
    • Foster an internal and external environment where awareness, understanding and choice can grow.
    • Act even when experiencing fear, even in the smallest of ways, as action reduces fear and builds strength and resiliency.
    • Create a current vision that comforts and sooths fear, whether in your mind to visit or perhaps a drawing or picture to look at frequently.
    • Express a mantra that challenges the fear, perhaps “This fear might be real, but it is not true right now!”
  5. Give Shame Back.  Somewhere along our journey, usually when we were very young, we internalized a message that we were bad or inadequate in some way.  Shame believes it is being protective, keeping you from connecting to others in order to avoid further hurt and humiliation.  In actuality, it is keeping you from accepting yourself and connecting with your authentic being.  Shame needs to be given back to the person that gave it to you, is not yours to keep!  Shame is like a hot potato that if we don’t give it back, we continue to pass it around to others, to try and make ourselves feel better.  The shortest route to feeling better is to shine the light on shame, give it air to breath so it can die on the vine.  Shame is like toxic mold.  Once mold sees the light and feels the dry air, it withers and dies.  Shame is probably one of the most powerful emotions keeping us small, so perhaps consider seeking the support of a trusted friend or professional counselor to support you in shining the light on the roots of any shame you are carrying under Pluto’s return, so it can be destroyed once and for all.

As always, if you try any of these intention-setting ideas for holistic health, I would love to hear about the impact they might have had for you.  Please send me an email at linda@sanctuary4compassion.com to share!

5 Intention-setting Ideas to Honor Juneteenth

Last year, in the midst of the pandemic, a new federal holiday was honored by legislation that signed it into law, even though it has been celebrated for over 150 years.  Juneteenth is the holiday that commemorates and celebrates the freedom of all Black people in the South that were enslaved.  Although the Emancipation Proclamation was issued by President Abraham Lincoln on January 1,1863, it took another two and half years for this information to travel to Galveston, Texas and inform the slaves there of their freedom.  The officials in Texas announced slavery was abolished on June 19th, 1865.  The 15th Amendment to the Constitution of the United States was ratified six months later to outlaw slavery nationwide.

This holiday celebrates the culture, history and pride as well as the strength and resiliency of black communities.  It is important to honor such events and holidays to make the time to remember and heal.

Below are intention-setting ideas for you to consider for honoring our collective history on this Juneteenth holiday:

  1. Read a Book. Below is a list of books (for various ages) to consider reading to honor this holiday:
    • Children
      • Addy:  An American Girl (a series by Connie Rose Porter)
      • Freedom’s Gifts:  A Juneteenth Story (by Valerie Wesley, illustrated by Sharon Wilson)
    • Adolescents
      • Crossing Ebenezer Creek (by Tonya Bolden)
      • Stamped:  Racism, Antiracism, and You (by Ibram X. Kendi and Jason Reynolds)
    • Adults
      • Juneteenth (by Ralph Ellison)
      • The Brightesst Day:  A Juneteenth Historical Romance Anthology (by Kianna Alexander, Alyssa Cole, Lena Hart, and Piper Huguley)
  2. Watch a Video/Movie.  If you prefer watching something to reading, below is a list of movies to consider to honor this holiday:
    • Miss Juneteenth
    • Slavery by Another Name
    • Civil War (or, Who Do We Think We Are)
    • Whose Streets?
  3. Join a Celebration.  Search for gatherings in your local area and plan to attend with friends and family.
  4. Sip a Red Drink.  Red beverages (and foods) on this holiday are symbolic of the blood shed by the slaves.  Perhaps plan to have some Hibiscus tea or Strawberry soda as part of the celebration of this holiday.
  5. Support a Black-owned Restaurant.  If you were thinking of going out for a meal (instead of mingling in the crowd of a local celebration), perhaps search for local black-owned restaurants in your area and perhaps order a red drink too!

As always, if you try any of these intention-setting ideas for holistic health, I would love to hear about the impact they might have had for you.  Please send me an email at linda@sanctuary4compassion.com to share!