5 Intention-setting Ideas to Bust the Myths of Suicide

Suicide Prevention Month

Suicide is a public health crisis that affects millions of people worldwide.  Unfortunately, many misconceptions and myths exist around it, which hinder understanding, empathy, and effective prevention.  September is Suicide Prevention Month to help raise awareness of suicide prevention and of actions that can be taken to promote healing, offer help, and give hope.

Below are some intention-setting ideas for busting some of the most common myths:

1. Ask.   Myth: Talking about suicide will make someone more likely to act on it.  Actually, research findings suggest that people who are having thoughts of suicide feel relief when someone asks about them in a caring way and that acknowledging and talking about suicide may reduce rather than increase suicidal ideation.  So, if you are concerned about someone you care about, please consider asking them if they are having suicidal thoughts.
2. Listen deeply.  Myth: People who talk about suicide are just seeking attention.  The fact is talking about suicide can actually be a critical step in prevention. It opens up communication, provides an opportunity to offer your support, and helps the person feel less isolated and alone.  People who talk about suicide are seeking connection, not attention.  If someone you care about tells you they are thinking about suicide, consider providing support by deepening your connection with them through a compassionate and caring conversation.
3. Empathize. Myth: Suicide is a result of personal weakness or a lack of willpower.  This is a very harmful stereotype.  Suicidal thoughts are often a result of overwhelming emotional pain and a sense of hopelessness.  People who die by suicide are not weak; they are simply overwhelmed by circumstances they feel unable to cope with.  If someone reaches out to you for support, the most effective intervention you can do is to listen with empathy and be non-judgmental.  The main thing that someone needs in these spaces is to be heard and not judged.
4. Learn.  Myth: Only people with mental illnesses commit suicide.  Although mental illnesses, such as bipolar disorder and schizophrenia, are significant risk factors for suicide, people who experience loss or significant stressors (without a mental health diagnosis) can also be at risk.  Do you know anyone that has experienced one of these significant life events:  unemployment, relationship problems, child abuse, bullying, traumatic brain injury, chronic pain and/or chronic health issue?  Are you aware that all of these are triggers that can activate suicidal thoughts or heighten suicide risk?  To learn more about the risk factors for suicide, consider visiting the National Association of Mental Illness’ website.
5. Encourage.  Myth: If someone is truly suicidal, there’s nothing you can do to stop them.  People in crisis often feel that their pain will never end.  It’s important to remember that people who are suicidal are often in a state of extreme distress.  They may not be able to think clearly or rationally.  With appropriate help and support, many find that their situation can improve.  Intervention can offer solutions and relief that individuals in crisis may not be able to see at the moment on their own.  It’s important to take any mention of suicide seriously. Consider encouraging your loved ones that might have shared their experience of suicidal thoughts to seek support from a mental health professional to address their underlying pain.  If you or someone you know is struggling with suicidal thoughts, please reach out for help.  Below are some resources:

• 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline:  Call or text 988
• The Trevor Project:  1-866-488-7386
• The Jed Foundation