Growing up in a chaotic home environment, whether as a result of job loss, divorce, mental illness or abuse, challenges the developing brain to grow from its survival parts to the parts that allow us to engage in the world in a way that brings a sense of acceptance, belonging, peace and abundance. It gets us stuck in a reactive mode that operates from a place of lack and fear, where the lens we view the world through suggests the glass is half empty, not half full and that we will never have everything we need. I know it did with me and the research tends to support my anecdotal experience, which has become a part of my own personal gratitude journal.
It was through my own personal yoga journey that led me to the idea – and ultimately the regular practice – of a gratitude journal over a decade ago. I started slowly, simply identifying some very basic items (for me at that time while recognizing they might not be for many), such as writing down that I was grateful for the roof over my head, the bed that I had to sleep in, and the hot running water that provided a hot shower each morning upon awakening. Some days that was all I could identify as far as what I was grateful for in the moment. But with the encouragement from others, my list began to expand – and it didn’t take that long either!
I recognized how grateful I was for my sometimes daily yoga practice, my breath, the joy that my fur babies bring me, walking, the thoughtfulness of my friends, my car that allowed a greater sense of freedom in my experience of travel to and from my jobs, music, air conditioning on hot days and heat on cold days, the colors when the leaves change in the fall, sleep, movies, the internet, rain, the sound of a train whistle, the smell of a fire place, Eastern medicine, boredom, reading a good book, setting a healthy boundary, the sound of the ocean, the warmth of the sun on my skin, sitting still in nature and I could go on and on, as I found the practice of gratitude growing exponentially.
Then I decided to challenge myself in this experience, where I got curious about what I might find to be grateful for in those moments when life sucks, such as when we lose someone we love or fail to get something we worked hard for and really wanted. Each night, I would open my gratitude journal and reflect on my day and delve into the challenging moments I experienced that day, whether it was a conflict I had with someone at work or the traffic accident I got stuck behind on my way home from work. Through this effort to test the strength of my gratitude I discovered that there is a silver lining or benefit that serves us in all of our life experiences where we can feel gratitude if we are open to the shift in perspective that arises when we exercise those parts of the brain that support our growth and transformation.
So what was the result of my gratitude journaling practice? Well, it has become a habit of mine! So now, whenever something that others might perceive as negative happens, I stop, reflect and share a different, more positive perspective of the event or circumstance. My felt response to this practice includes a greater sense of peace, trust, confidence, and a new, growing belief that all is as it should be which emanates from a deep, growing well of abundance. I now see the glass as half full and encourage everyone to try it for themselves, reminding them to start small and watch how their list grows. Then, when we do experience dark days – as we all will and do – we can read through our gratitude journals to remind ourselves that this too shall pass.
If my personal experience of cultivating gratitude isn’t enough to motivate you to start practicing immediately or continuing practicing, click on the link below to read up on the first randomized controlled trial (which is the gold standard in the research world) to test the impact of gratitude writing that demonstrated a positive, lasting impact on mental health:
Gratitude Journaling Improves Mental Health!
/in Yoga/by LindaGrowing up in a chaotic home environment, whether as a result of job loss, divorce, mental illness or abuse, challenges the developing brain to grow from its survival parts to the parts that allow us to engage in the world in a way that brings a sense of acceptance, belonging, peace and abundance. It gets us stuck in a reactive mode that operates from a place of lack and fear, where the lens we view the world through suggests the glass is half empty, not half full and that we will never have everything we need. I know it did with me and the research tends to support my anecdotal experience, which has become a part of my own personal gratitude journal.
It was through my own personal yoga journey that led me to the idea – and ultimately the regular practice – of a gratitude journal over a decade ago. I started slowly, simply identifying some very basic items (for me at that time while recognizing they might not be for many), such as writing down that I was grateful for the roof over my head, the bed that I had to sleep in, and the hot running water that provided a hot shower each morning upon awakening. Some days that was all I could identify as far as what I was grateful for in the moment. But with the encouragement from others, my list began to expand – and it didn’t take that long either!
I recognized how grateful I was for my sometimes daily yoga practice, my breath, the joy that my fur babies bring me, walking, the thoughtfulness of my friends, my car that allowed a greater sense of freedom in my experience of travel to and from my jobs, music, air conditioning on hot days and heat on cold days, the colors when the leaves change in the fall, sleep, movies, the internet, rain, the sound of a train whistle, the smell of a fire place, Eastern medicine, boredom, reading a good book, setting a healthy boundary, the sound of the ocean, the warmth of the sun on my skin, sitting still in nature and I could go on and on, as I found the practice of gratitude growing exponentially.
Then I decided to challenge myself in this experience, where I got curious about what I might find to be grateful for in those moments when life sucks, such as when we lose someone we love or fail to get something we worked hard for and really wanted. Each night, I would open my gratitude journal and reflect on my day and delve into the challenging moments I experienced that day, whether it was a conflict I had with someone at work or the traffic accident I got stuck behind on my way home from work. Through this effort to test the strength of my gratitude I discovered that there is a silver lining or benefit that serves us in all of our life experiences where we can feel gratitude if we are open to the shift in perspective that arises when we exercise those parts of the brain that support our growth and transformation.
So what was the result of my gratitude journaling practice? Well, it has become a habit of mine! So now, whenever something that others might perceive as negative happens, I stop, reflect and share a different, more positive perspective of the event or circumstance. My felt response to this practice includes a greater sense of peace, trust, confidence, and a new, growing belief that all is as it should be which emanates from a deep, growing well of abundance. I now see the glass as half full and encourage everyone to try it for themselves, reminding them to start small and watch how their list grows. Then, when we do experience dark days – as we all will and do – we can read through our gratitude journals to remind ourselves that this too shall pass.
If my personal experience of cultivating gratitude isn’t enough to motivate you to start practicing immediately or continuing practicing, click on the link below to read up on the first randomized controlled trial (which is the gold standard in the research world) to test the impact of gratitude writing that demonstrated a positive, lasting impact on mental health:
5 Intention-setting Ideas for Emotional Wellness
/in Newsletter/by LindaI believe we are all feeling the heaviness of the divisive energy that we are experiencing in the world, whether we want to acknowledge it or try to pretend it doesn’t exist. So many of us can’t wrap our minds around what is happening! I keep reminding myself we must have destruction before construction. The heavy, destructive energy is bringing the darkness into the light, so we can more clearly see what needs to change in order to elevate the collective consciousness.
It will require serious perseverance and energy to take back our power from whatever it is that we believe is keeping us powerless. And, yet we don’t have to do this alone. The past couple of years brought even more clarity to the people in my life, helping me to better discern those that I can turn to and trust to have my back, no matter what, while, at the same time, helping me to release those who I refer to as “energy vampires” that were vibrating at a different wave length.
As we experience the October new moon today (10/08/18), let it be a reminder that we are presented with another opportunity to start a new cycle, a chance to build upon what we already know. When we experience a new moon, it is not visible from Earth as the moon steps directly between the Sun and Earth. However, with each following day, the moon slowly begins to reveal itself again, thanks to the Sun’s reflective light. Let this monthly lunar cycle inspire our sense of hope that there is light after the dark and that the Universe is at play here, bringing the world into a new state of balance as it continues to work toward homeostasis.
Vision Boarding to Support 2019 Intentions!
/in Events/by LindaMight direct neurofeedback be worth a try?
/in Neurofeedback/by LindaI’m a big believer in our innate ability to heal ourselves, the power of the human body and mind to continually work together towards homeostasis and health. I also have personally experienced the chaos created in both by trauma, challenging my body and mind to maintain that state of equilibrium and well-being. Through my own healing journey, I have discovered tools along the way that have worked to reinforce that innate ability to heal and feel sense of encouragement when the research supports personal experience. Direct neurofeedback is one of those tools.
Trauma comes in all shapes and sizes, whether you experienced abuse or neglect as a child, grew up on a home with one or both parents suffering from a mental illness or addiction, or were a witness to domestic violence while living with adults or going through a contentious divorce. The enduring nature of the trauma from such interpersonally violent upbringings stems from the impact on the developing brain and nervous system. When we embrace this fact, then we can also embrace the fact that sometimes the mind cannot talk itself out of such experiences when not involving the body in the process.
The brain, along with the spinal cord, forms the body’s main control center of our central nervous system. This control center is where incoming stimulus is evaluated and decisions about what action to take are made. It is the neurons in the brain that support the mind’s awareness of sensations, emotions, thoughts and ultimately behaviors when they communicate with each other. When our neurons communicate, they produce electrical pulses referred to as brain waves. These brain waves can be compared to the radio waves and the various stations that we tune into to listen to the radio. AM stations work on a lower bandwidth, while FM stations have a higher bandwidth. Our brain waves change according to what we are “tuned into”, with our slower brain waves being the AM stations and our faster ones being the FM stations. Therefore, the brain is the main body part that is driving our beliefs, perceptions and reactions.
Understanding this very complex organ has taken some time as we waited for science to catch up with the personal experience of many. With the advent of the electroencephalogram (EEG for short), we are able to see the various brain wave activity and now research has been able to identify the brain wave patterns associated with various neurological and emotional conditions, including ADHD, anxiety and depression. This information created the opportunity to identify and work with tools to change or modify those brain waves, supporting the brains natural tendency towards balance and health.
Therefore, we are now better able to understand that when our brain waves are out of balance we will experience dis-ease in our minds and bodies, creating an unnatural, unhealthy environment that jeopardizes our overall well-being and health. This understanding allows a more specific focus on tools that change or balance our brain waves to return the brain to its natural healthy state and thus creating an atmosphere for peace of mind and strength of body. It helps us to appreciate the past experience with psychotherapy (or “talk” therapy), where it has been shown that changing our perceptions changes our experience of the world. It also better explains the use of drugs (prescription or otherwise) to alter the brain’s ability to function and alleviate symptoms of dis-ease in the mind and body.
A newer approach to what ails many in the Western world is the use of more traditional Eastern practices such as yoga, meditation and deep breathing, which research is now able to show that these practices support the brain’s natural balance by modifying the brain wave patterns that create the imbalance. In addition to these techniques, which work best when implemented as daily practices over the long haul, direct neurofeedback is showing success in altering brain waves more quickly that underlie the symptoms of a wide range of conditions, offering more immediate relief.
If you would like to read more about the research to determine for yourself if this tool might be worth a try, click on the button below:
5 Intention-setting Ideas to Help Save Lives
/in Newsletter/by LindaSeptember is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month and September 10th is World Suicide Prevention Day.
Suicide is not an easy topic to talk about and yet that is exactly what is needed in order to reduce the growing rate of this tragedy. Conversations can make a difference when someone is thinking about suicide.
Did you know that suicide is now the 10th leading cause of death in the United States, that, according to the CDC, suicide rates have increased by more than 30% in half of the states since 1999, and that the youngest person to kill themselves was only 6 years old?
Many of us will notice changes in people around us and get the feeling that “something is not right”. You may not want to say anything for fear you won’t know what to say if they confirm your concerns. While these conversations can be very difficult and confronting, just one conversation can save someone’s life by preventing suicide.
You may not be sure what to do to help, whether you should take talk of suicide seriously, or if your intervention might make the situation worse. Taking action is always the best choice. Here’s what you need to know to start saving lives today:
The Legacy of Childhood Trauma – Transgenerational Impact!
/in Talk Therapy/by LindaI had a dear colleague once say to me “We didn’t know what we didn’t know. When we know, we do better”. I hear myself repeating this phrase often, because blame and shame are not healthy, period. Yet, if we don’t look back to reflect on the need for change and growth, then we are doomed to repeat the mistakes of the past. I have written reflections in the past on the research around the impact of adverse childhood events (ACEs) on the individual and today I want to share the research that shows the impact of such events doesn’t stop with the individual!
Both of my own parents experienced childhood trauma and stressors, which thwarted their emotional growth trajectories, yet they didn’t know that about themselves and neither did society. However, I definitely sensed that something was off and, as little ones will naturally do, I attempted to fill in the gaps. Impossible, I know now, but I didn’t know then. How ironic.
With this new research from UCLA reflecting a strong association between children’s behavioral health problems and their parents’ adversity histories, we now know better. When our awareness grows around our past, it brings a deeper understanding of our experiences and our normal, natural adaptive responses. With that deeper understanding, our hearts can begin to heal from events that our conscious minds were not even present to directly witness, yet stuck in our bodies instead. We can create opportunities for ourselves to challenge those strongly guarded, unspeakable beliefs that there must be something wrong with us or that we are not worthy of acceptance and love, which keep us from a meaningful connection with ourselves and to others.
So, if you currently suffer from symptoms of trauma, such as anxiety and/or depression, and are not aware of experiencing any adverse childhood events yourself, perhaps consider exploring any that your parents might have been subjected to as they grew up. Please remember that this exploration and what it might uncover is not meant to blame your parents. It is meant to shine a light on the blame and shame that you might be carrying and that is feeding the self-judgment that is holding you back from a life full of connection, meaning and health.
To read more on this research, click on the button below:
5 Intention-setting Ideas for Navigating This Eclipse and Retrograde Season
/in Newsletter/by LindaOn Tuesday, August 7th, with the planet Uranus going retrograde, we will now be under the influence of six planets in retrograde for the next two weeks, until the 19th when Mercury returns direct and Mars returns direct on the 27th. In addition, we have the last eclipse of the year, a solar eclipse occurring on the 11th. What is the Universe trying to say to us with all of this heavenly activity this month? It is encouraging us to stop pushing forward right now and take some time to reflect on our past. There is much opportunity this month for healing our hearts and souls and elevating the collective consciousness of our planet if we do so!
Below are some ideas to consider that will help you navigate this month, until the energy starts flowing again next month:
Self-acceptance, what is it good for? Absolutely everything!
/in Yoga/by LindaSome days I get washed away by a tidal wave of gratitude for discovering yoga all those years ago. I first embraced the practice “on the mat”, showing up for classes sometimes 5 to 6 or 7 days a week depending upon the kind of week I was having, and ultimately integrating it into my daily life “off the mat” and pursuing it as a way of life through the process of becoming a yoga teacher. One of the first things that I learned in my training was that there is so much more to yoga that the poses that you do in a yoga class. The first limb of the eight limbs of yoga is a list of observances or moral ethics to guide us in our thoughts and behaviors, in how we engage with ourselves and in the world, before we even get on our mats. The first one on the list is ahimsa, which often is translated from Sanskrit to English as non-violence.
When most of us think about violence, our perspective is external – don’t harm another, whether it is another person, an animal or any sentient being on Mother Earth. Yet consider for a moment the harm we might do to ourselves. If you could record your thoughts toward yourself, would you be willing to recount those thoughts towards another? Would you impose your limiting beliefs on another? What is it like to lie to yourself? Would you insist that everyone must be able to touch their toes before coming to a yoga class? We can be our own worst critic!
What lies beneath such self-harm in body, mind and spirit is fear and self-judgment; ahimsa can guide us in a different direction, towards self-acceptance and ultimately self-love. Now, applying ahimsa toward yourself requires practice and patience because, as humans, we are perfectly imperfect. Ahimsa does not require perfection, and in fact, asks us to accept and love ourselves despite the fact that we are flawed. It asks us to respect ourselves enough to offer ourselves kindness when we wander off course into the weeds of self-judgment, which will happen. So maybe embrace the concept of ahimsa as a process of growth, as a verb and not a noun, which implies it is a destination instead of a journey.
So, why might you want to embrace ahimsa and lean into the opportunity to practice self-acceptance? Well, if you take it from me, it brings much needed relief and inner peace. However, if you don’t believe me, take a look at some recent research that suggests acceptance (or lack thereof) is a central factor in the onset and maintenance of mental health.
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5 Intention-setting Ideas to Beat the Heat
/in Newsletter/by LindaAlthough we are technically still in the first third of the summer, we are in the middle of the dog days of summer as children start to plan to return to school next month! And not only are we busy down here on earth moving through the changes that come with summer vacation, but the skies are busy too, with two Eclipses this month and a total of five planets in retrograde. The stop and go type of energy surrounding us this month is encouraging us to slow down. The Universe is conspiring right now to support internal reflection and a focus on what is already right in front of us. At the end of next month, forward moving action will be supported, just in time for the kids to return to school!
And, at this time of year, we begin to experience the heat. Continuing research on climate change has focused on the impact on worker productivity and ultimately, on the effect on the economic status of entire countries. I know I don’t need to tell you that when you feel the heat, your level of motivation to do anything – even fun things – goes way down. So, in addition to continuing to do what you can to reduce your personal impact on Mother Earth, I offer the following intention setting ideas to keep your cool during the dog days of summer:
Neurofeedback – Promising non-pharmaceutical intervention strategies for anxiety and depression!
/in Neurofeedback/by LindaMany people that I connect with express a desire to try other approaches to address symptoms of anxiety and depression before turning to medications, especially when it is their children that are suffering from such symptoms, as all prescription medications come with undesired side-effects. As a psychotherapist and yoga teacher, I share the research with them that shows the effectiveness of integrating these two (yoga and talk therapy) healing arts to support the shift in focus toward health promotion for those who prefer to take a more natural, holistic approach to healing. Now I am excited to share recent research that demonstrates combining neurofeedback with heart rate variability training (e.g., deep slow abdominal yogic breathing) provides another viable non-pharmaceutical approach to address the symptoms of anxiety and depression. And the research showed a reduction in symptoms for both children and adults!
Neurofeedback is not new and is a form of biofeedback, where instruments are attached to the body to provide information to the individual on the functioning of their body. Biofeedback, including neurofeedback, as a field of study has been growing since the 1960s. Neurofeedback (or EEG biofeedback) is the form of biofeedback that enables people to change the brain’s electrical activity. An EEG (electroencephalography) is the device that captures the real-time brain wave activity so it can be displayed and assessed for any unhealthy patterns that might be contributing to symptoms, such as anxiety and depression. Being able to offer a way to change unhealthy brain wave patterns through neurofeedback is of special interest to those of us working with clients to relieve such distressing symptoms because the brain is a central contributor to the emotions, physical symptoms, thoughts and behaviors that define many problems for which people reach out for support.
Yoga and it’s slow, controlled deep abdominal breathing is also not new. What is new is the research that is showing how this yogic breathing impacts heart rate variability (HRV). HRV has been shown to be linked with an increase in cardiovascular disease, specifically when the variability is low. (Please refer to last month’s Reflection to learn more about HRV.) Stress and anxiety increases the activity of the sympathetic nervous system, the system responsible for the flight-fight response in the body, leading to increases in heart rate and a lowering of heart rate variability. On the other hand, activation of the parasympathetic nervous system, the system responsible for the rest-digest response in the body, has been shown to decrease heart rate and increase heart rate variability, specifically through the stimulation of the vagus (Cranial X) nerve that controls the heart, lung and digestion. It is the controlled breathing found in a regular yoga practice that stimulates the vagus nerve, bringing balance to the activity of the sympathetic nervous system activity.
Even more recent research has brought these two healing modalities together to assess the impact of stimulating both the brain with neurofeedback and the vagus nerve with deep abdominal breathing on symptoms of anxiety and depressing in both children and adults. The results showed evidence that such training may provide an effective, non-pharmaceutical approach to reducing such symptoms, with some additional benefits such as improving blood pressure!
To read the full research article, click on the link below: